You Shouldn’t Trust this Dating app
t’s my annual reminder that this dating app doesn’t have your best interests at heart ‼️
Each year (sometimes multiple times), a rep from Positive Singles reaches out asking me to partner with them. Each year I tell them no. I’ve also requested that they remove me from their contact lists, which clearly has never been honored (a red flag in itself).
Here are the reasons why I’ve never and will never support PS.
1. These apps don’t solve the safer s*x problem. They provide the illusion of safety and support by allowing users on this app to only have s*x with people who have herpes. The safety of being rejection-free (when in reality, you can reject someone for any number of things).
What about other STIs? What about the communication skills and habits to actually have safer s*x? These are the skills we need to build to decrease the rising STI rates across the globe.
2. PS and other apps presents people with herpes and STIs as others, unworthy from the normal selection of dating apps ( @hinge @bumble @tinder @feeldco etc) and only to date “their own kind.” The only reason you feel that you want to be a part of PS is because you feel you have no other option, and that’s exactly what they want from you.
3. I’ve done the deep dive, I’ve read the terms and conditions. PS is trying to monetize off a vulnerable community. I understand that some people may find community here, but the community that I’ve researched and investigated isn’t all that impressive in comparison to supports outside of this app (There are so many more amazing resources for herpes and STIs than there were ten years ago!)
Ultimately, you can’t create a safe community in a place where people are unwelcome and taken advantage of to begin with.
Please know I understand that the stigma and marketing can put you in a place where you feel like PS is the only way, but I promise you that there are SO many more options for dating, love, and s*x that exist outside of this.