Reflections on Dating in My 20s: Lessons Learned on Self-Worth, Boundaries, and Growth

Anyone else feel more reflective as the seasons change? 🍂

I’ve been thinking a lot about where I am, where I’ve been, and where I want to go—career, location, and dating being top of mind.

I’m not ready to jump into anything yet, but wanted to share some of my top insights from what I learned dating in my 20s.

1. It’s okay to live with “what ifs.”

Sometimes, I made decisions solely based on the fear of “what if?” Looking back, I can see that the fantasy of “what if” was more appealing than the reality.

2. If something feels off, listen.

Intuition and gut instincts are personal. For me, my body will let me know when something isn’t right. I ignored myself and my body’s signs once, I’ll be kinder to myself and listen in the future.

3. No matter how much you support or believe in someone, real change only happens if they’re ready and willing to do the work.

4. Sacrificing your identity, wants, and dreams won’t save a relationship—but it will lead you to losing yourself in the process.

5. Prioritizing your s/xual health is self-care.

@ myself in my teens and twenties when I was very uninformed about my intimate health and how to communicate with my partners.

6. Not everyone is going to “get” what you’re about. Don’t let them define your worth.

Did any of these resonate with you? Be sure to drop a ❤️ if so.

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