How to Boost Confidence for Dating After a Herpes Diagnosis

How to hype yourself up for a date post-herpes diagnosis.

1. Find your hype song (Cue @theestallion)

You know the one. The one that every time it comes on you have to stop what you’re doing to dance, sing, and vibe out. It’s the song that never fails to uplift your confidence. Find your song and add it to your getting ready playlist. Put it on repeat, if needed.

2. Wear reminders of confidence.
Whether it’s your go-to date outfit that’s been buried since your diagnosis or a necklace that makes you feel empowered, adorn yourself with something that evokes confidence within you. Confidence is powerful and stems from you. Personally, I am a shoe gal and love any monogram jewelry. Just something about it reminds me who I am.

3. Find a “why” that’s unrelated to your HSV status.

Remember why you’re here and try to separate that from your diagnosis. Aside from acceptance, what are you looking for in your partners? What we’re you attracted to in your potential date? What are you hoping to gain from dating?

The transition back to dating can be tough, as are other transitions, so be sure to make space for patience and gentleness with yourself with each passing date.

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