Why Disclosing Cold Sores to Partners is Essential: A Herpes Expert’s Perspective
“Do I have to disclose cold sores to my partners?” In my opinion, yes. Here’s why:
1. It’s an accessible way to normalize and destigmatize herpes (oral, genital, and just the word itself)
2. It’s an opportunity to educate others about what herpes really is and what it means. For example, so many don’t know that cold sores are herpes, or that they can transmit to partners from mouth-to-genitals.
3. You’re obligated to disclose your oral herpes status prior to oral sex. Disclosing sooner rather than later may lead to more trust with your partners, as opposed to them questioning why you didn’t disclose sooner.
If you’re someone who feels hesitant or resistant to disclosing oral herpes, I invite you to engage in the opportunity of exploration and reflection about your beliefs around herpes and its stigma.
Why don’t you want to disclose? Is it awkward? Why? Are you embarrassed? Why? If they’re “just cold sores” what’s the big deal? These are just a few questions that are worth exploring.