Why Overcommunicating About Sex Is Essential
For many, overcommunication might be seen as a negative. When it comes to sex, we frequently under-communicate.
Most of us were not taught how to converse around sexual pleasure, our desires, STI status, or how to communicate about any of these topics with our partners. As a result, many of these conversations fail to happen.
Our partners are (probably not) psychic. Our partners may not be able to discern if you like what they’re doing. Our partners may need guidance to know exactly what you enjoy.
When I advise to “overcommunicate about sex,” communicate more than you think you need to. Cherish check-ins with your partners. Ask if they’d like to explore something new. Confirm if they’re satisfied with your sexual cadence (i.e. how long and often you’re having sex), or if they’d like more or less.
We change with time, why would we expect our sex lives to remain the same?