Navigating STI Disclosure: Tips for Those Considering Disclosure
As sex educators, we often preach to the importance of disclosure with sexual partners, but rarely do we share what happens if someone does not disclose their STI status.
The reality is that people do not disclose. Many simply don’t know how—we’re not taught. Some might be unaware of their STI status, or negate testing because they have no symptoms. Others may fear rejection or get caught in the heat of the moment if they do have an STI.
For example, multiple research studies link herpes disclosures to relationship and sexual milestones, indicating that disclosure happens after sexual acts rather than before. Another popular question I receive is, “How do I tell my causal partner or one night stand about my STI status?” Or, “Do I need to tell them at all?”
If you and/or your partners have yet to disclose, don’t fear. Here are my tips outlined below:
1. Disclosure is mutual
2. Is this person a safe space to disclose in person?
3. Own it.
4. A belated disclosure is better than no disclosure.
For those that might need this message, I hope that this is helpful and affirmative as you work through your next steps with your partners.