Seeking Closure in Relationships: The Deeper Desire for Peace
Maybe youve heard it, or maybe you’ve said it—“I just want closure.” It’s a phrase that usually follows the ending of a relationship, be it romantic, platonic, or otherwise. It is often followed by eye-rolls and “are you sures” from friends alike, and with good reason. But beneath closure lies something more important.
When we desire closure in an area of our life, we’re really seeking peace. Being at peace with something or someone doesn’t mean a problem is necessarily solved, or that the answers to the open questions ruminating in our minds are answered, or even that we’re offering forgiveness. Rarely does closure ever lead us where we hope. But peace...
Peace means we can sit with what happened, what is, and move forward with a level of acceptance. Not of a situation or a person, but with a level of self.